Feelings are a tricky business. You think you know what they’re going to do in a given situation, but they can be a little unpredictable. Like the weather for your soul. I had the final part of my autism assessment on Saturday. There’s a questionnaire bit I had to do with a different professional in […]
Four years ago, back when I was just weird and permanently frustrated with myself or other people, rather than probably autistic, I participated in a CrochetAlong. This is where you buy a kit of yarns in different colours and then week by week, the pattern that goes with the kit is released. The idea is […]
“Parents of autistic kids don’t listen to the perspective of autistic adults” is a common complaint I see on Twitter. Apparently, parents tend to say Terrible Things like “I know my child best” and “your autism is different to their autism”. And then autistic people get upset because, technically, there is something about the lived […]
We live in a society that tells us that if we try hard enough, believe and work hard enough, anything is possible. We can make our dreams come true through sheer bloody-mindedness. It’s not true. I come from a version of the Christian faith that gave me the sense that if I did everything right, […]
Since lockdown began I have pretty much been making 3 different lunches every day. Not So Little Person has a mixture of fruit, salad stuff, maybe cheese or salami, arranged in neat little piles on a plate (or occasionally in the shape of an alien invasion or other such nonsense because well, this is me […]
The Dude reckons I should have called this Overcoming the Terrors of Transition. I might yet hire him as my copy editor…. I used to think I was good with change and transition, back in the day (I also the thought I was organised and good with people, but that’s a whole other story). On […]
Back when I was a Children’s Church worker, I had to do a training course which was meant to go on to be a video resource for other churches. One of the sessions was about “check your dignity at the door”. The basic premise was that,when you came to do your work with the children, […]
First, this is my story. This is not prescriptive for anyone else. Second, I generally try to be quite vague but I have seen so many people judging themselves for having similar emotions and experiences to me, and I want them to know that they are not alone. This is a journey. Thirdly, I got […]
Ah, self care. So trendy. Bubble baths and spa days and chocolate chip cookies (homemade… by someone else) and making lists. Self care is not a one off event that you schedule in your diary every few months just before you hit burnout. Especially if you are the kind of person that only realises you […]
#Kale – Metaphors Keep discrediting the metaphors: Annihilated “Journey”, Liquidated “Battle”, Excused “Chapter”. * I write #kale poems for my friend @drbexl as she lives with the challenges of a secondary breast cancer diagnosis (#livingwithmets), but this one is sort of for both of us. Because while her challenges are not my challenges, and my […]
